5 Ways Partners Can Prepare for Labor and Delivery
Labor and delivery can be one of the most intense and transformative experiences a couple will go through together. While much of the focus is understandably on the birthing person, partners play a critical role before, during, and after birth. Here are five powerful ways partners can prepare for labor and delivery to provide meaningful support and be truly present in the moment.
1. Get Educated Together
One of the best ways to prepare is to take a childbirth education class together. These classes provide an understanding of the stages of labor, pain management options, and medical interventions. Learning about the birthing process helps reduce anxiety and empowers both of you with knowledge. As a partner, knowing what’s happening allows you to offer reassurance and advocate effectively when needed.
Tip: Look for classes that also focus on partner roles, comfort techniques, and postpartum care.
2. Create a Birth Plan as a Team
A birth plan isn’t just for the birthing person—it’s a communication tool for the whole team. Discuss preferences for the birth setting, pain relief, interventions, and immediate postpartum care. Make sure both of you are on the same page so the partner can help communicate your wishes during labor when decisions may need to be made quickly.
Tip: Keep it flexible—birth can be unpredictable. Think of the birth plan as a guide, not a script.
3. Practice Comfort Measures
Learn and practice hands-on support techniques like massage, counter-pressure, breathing cues, and position changes. These skills can make a big difference during labor, especially if a partner knows how and when to use them.
Tip: Ask your doula or childbirth educator to show you labor positions and touch techniques that can help ease pain.
4. Prepare Emotionally and Mentally
Labor can bring up strong emotions for both of you. Partners may feel helpless, anxious, or overwhelmed watching a loved one in pain. Talk through expectations, fears, and communication styles ahead of time. Build a toolkit of calming techniques like grounding exercises, mantras, or even playlists that help both of you stay centered.
Tip: Remind yourself that your calm energy can be one of the greatest gifts you bring to the room.
5. Pack Smart and Plan Ahead
Know what’s in the hospital or birth center bag—snacks, comfort items, phone chargers, ID, and copies of your birth plan. Also plan for logistics: transportation, parking, child or pet care if needed, and knowing the route to your chosen facility. Having these details sorted helps reduce stress when labor starts.
Tip: Include items for the partner, too—comfortable clothes, toiletries, and something to keep you nourished and rested.
Labor is a team effort. When partners are prepared, it creates a supportive, grounded environment that allows the birthing person to feel safe, heard, and empowered. Preparation doesn’t mean perfection—it means showing up, being present, and doing your best with love and intention.
Want personalized guidance for your birth journey? Reach out for doula support, childbirth classes, or partner coaching to feel fully equipped for the big day.
